Stalker or Obsessed Roommate?

This story comes from Lynn, a reader of this site. Sometimes an apartment just isn’t worth it, and it’s time to move!

So, I have been living in this house since December 2010 [Editor’s note: already too long in my opinion]. The landlord – a guy – lives there and at the time so did 3 other girls (some have moved out and others moved out).

At first everything was fine, then he started to ask questions about my sex life with my boyfriend and said that he knows we aren’t having sex anymore and that maybe its because I smell down there and that I should shave or maybe I should wear a naughty school girl outfit. For one, I didn’t tell him we were having issues about this but he knew? And it wasn’t like we weren’t having sex, just not frequently. He somehow knew that I bought a sex toy for my boyfriend and asked how much it was and where I had gotten it from so he could get one himself. I DONT JUST TELL PEOPLE THIS!!

At this point a new girl moved into the master bedroom upstairs and she was causing problems. We found out that she was a stripper and an escort etc….It was just so uncomfortable. When my boyfriend came over one day she walked out to his car in nothing but a t-shirt and knocked on his window like I wasn’t there at all. Then when I looked over at her she turned around and “dropped” something and bent over and EVERYTHING was in my boyfriends face. the landlord would always say that he didn’t want her here but then he would say that he could totally have sex with her and that he should go to her work one day. He told me one morning that he was going to start getting really creepy around her so she would leave. I told him to just ask her to clean (she refused to clean anything). But instead of doing that he told me that she was downstairs in his room and he sat next to her and started masturbating. She supposedly just sat there but who knows if this actually even happened.
She left the following week.

now when I first moved in he told me that he was on probation for a stupid college prank…but as time went on I got 3 other stories about why he was on probation. so I decided to look him up online. what I found is like unfathomable. 2 dozen counts of child porn. assault. trespassing. fraudulently owning a talent agency. burglary of an occupied dwelling. and a friend who was going to move in told me that he told her that since she is on probation too that he’ll tell her the truth about why he is on probation, he told her that his charges were armed burglary. I just don’t know what to think anymore.

oh, and according to him the upstairs bedroom is cursed. not too long ago he was upstairs helping a tenant leave the master bedroom AGAIN, and he supposedly opened this jewelry box from a previous tenant that practiced black magic or something like that. well he said that when he opened the box that both him and the leaving tenant heard a loud bang and then a dragging noise. when I came home an hour later the painting my boyfriend did for me was off the wall and pushed up against my bed. I went and asked him if my painting fell and if he pushed it against my bed. then, he proceeded to tell me about the demon being in my room now and that the demon is trying to tell me something about my boyfriend because it was the painting he made for me. he really pushed my boyfriend being a bad person and that the demon knows he has a bad spirit or something along those lines. it was very frustrating, he kept going on about the box so I went upstairs put the box in a garbage bag and told him that if he really thinks that the box is the reason that weird stuff happens then throw it away. he kept saying but I don’t want to keep it I my room. I never said to keep it in his room, ever! the next morning I woke up and saw the box sitting on the back porch, clearly he wants to keep this demon charade going.

another annoying story….

I got a kitten and he said that it was okay to have her there, well when I left for work the following day he said he would feed her and that was it. well, when I got home he told me that he called a vet to get info for me on how to care for a kitten, okay, I never asked him to do that and I have had kittens before. he gave ME a feeding schedule! I told him he needs to stop being a know it all, and he casually looked at me and said ” but I am the all knowing.” I just walked away; I didn’t even know what to say to him. the next day he told me that my kitten got outside even though I told him to not let her on the back porch because she was raised as an outside cat. but he put her out back even though he knew there was a rip in the screen. so she got out and climbed the 25 foot oak tree and at the time he said she jumped down into a new roommates arms. the following day I come home and he starts tell me that my cat is mentally retarded and that she has no left eye. I was freaking out, I started crying because he said her eye would roll all the way to back of her head and all he saw was a skin flap or something like that. I rushed her to the vet and they said that cats had 3rd eyelids that will come down sometimes and that it’s nothing to worry about. when I got home I told him and he gave me a dirty look like I was lying, then he told me that he thinks that when the cat landed on the ground that it messed up her nerves. so right there I caught him in a lie, he said the cat jumped into someone’s arms but now he is saying she jumped to the ground. I told him that I had to get rid of her and he called me bi-polar I told him not to call me that he said “well then what are you? tri polar?” I told him he needs to back off and stop talking to me that way.

the night I got rid of the kitten I was talking to him and I said oh yeah well rob and I will get a kitten when we move in together and he starts to go off, saying that my boyfriend will never be stable. and that he’s been there and done that and we won’t ever work and if we get married we wont last. I began to get very angry and told he needs to back off and that I don’t understand why he gets so involved in my life. he follows me to my room and keeps going on about my boyfriend. (we have been together for over 3 years and I never air my dirty laundry about our relationship to anyone so I don’t know why he has such a problem with him).

about 2 weeks later I come home and he starts asking if I have ever been alone and that I should just leave my boyfriend because by the time im 22 im going to need to be alone because he knows from experience. I began to scream stop it and he kept asking why while laughing. I told him I am not him and don’t need to be alone and that rob and I are very happy and he needs to leave me alone. but he continued. he finally stopped when my boyfriend called because I was texting him the whole time. the next morning he acted as if nothing even happened the night before. there are so many more stories, I’m just so frustrated and needed some feedback on everything.


Free Landlord Training in Buffalo

Mayor Byron Brown is sponsoring, through the Save Our Streets Task Force, free Landlord Training and Workshop Sessions on Friday, April 1, 2011 from 8:30am-4:30pm.

“These training sessions are part of an ongoing effort to create safe, healthy and livable communities,” said Mayor Brown. “The program teaches and ensures the most efficient and safe rental process and home ownership in the City of Buffalo. It is advantageous for landlords to receive appropriate training for the management of their properties and their tenants.” Read more »


UK Website Lists Bad Tenants

A website has been launched to protect the nation’s landlords, local authorities and letting agents from nightmare tenants.

Lorna Rose, of Cricklade, has joined forces with two property experts to create TenantID to provide information about the history of prospective tenants which could save the lettings industry millions of pounds a year. Read more »


Tenant Voo Doo Ceremony Causes Deadly Fire

A set of voodoo candles used in a “good luck” ritual set off the massive Feb. 20 East Flatbush fire that killed one woman and left 47 families homeless last week — and fire officials say the early evening blaze could have easily been contain had the occupants of the apartment called 911 instead of trying to put it out by themselves.

Residents inside opened the doors and windows in an attempt to vent the smoke, but heavy winds buffeting the E. 29th Street building between Clarendon Road and Avenue D fanned the flames — causing “blowtorch” conditions that pushed the fire out into the hallway, FDNY Fire Commissioner Salvatore Cassano said. Read more »

Brown Bear Waltz

The Tenant Who Wanted To Fight

This week’s story again comes from Financial Uproar.  Sometimes cultural differences and a language barrier can result in a fighting stance.

I rent out my basement. For the most part, I’ve had good tenants. My current tenant is moving out at the end of June, because she got pregnant and wants her own place for her and the baby. Since I’m pretty sure the baby was conceived in my basement, I like to crack the joke “at least someone is getting laid at my place”. Overall though, she’s been a great tenant.

The guy before her? Well, not so much. Read more »


Renter Accused of Burgling Landlord’s Barn Arrested for Forgery, Identity Theft, Property Damage and Issuing Bad Checks

A Southbury man previous arrested for 15 counts of burglary was arrested again Sunday for forgery, damaging property, issuing bad checks and identity theft.

Deane Moss, 49, of 1092 Roxbury Road was accused of damaging property at the property he had been arrested for burgling; Moss and his family had been renting the house at 516 South Main Street at the time and have since been evicted. Read more »


The Creepy Roommate

Today’s post is from Financial Uproar.  This post reminds up to be careful who we rent to.  If you don’t have a good feeling about the person, it might be your intuition telling you to run!

Shortly after I bought my house in 2008, I was on a bit on a kick to try to minimize all my expenses. Maybe I was scared because my mortgage payment was so much higher than it ever was when I bought any of my rental properties. Maybe it was because I was scared that self employment isn’t the most stable of incomes. Once I crunched the numbers, I realized that with both a basement and upstairs tenant, I could have all my expenses covered, effectively living for nothing.  Having a great basement tenant made me think of how easy the whole situation would be, especially considering how little time I spent at home back then.  So I put the word out. Read more »


Tenant Kills Super Over Unpaid Rent

Cops are hunting a cold-blooded killer who plunged a knife into the chest of a building super who was trying to collect overdue rent, police said Saturday.

The super, Shayne Sinclair, was collecting for the landlord around 8:30 p.m. Friday at a single room occupancy building in Brooklyn. Sinclair, 40, was taken to Brookdale University Hospital where he died.

The suspect ran from the building on E. 51st Street in Flatlands and was still being sought Saturday afternoon, police said. Read more »


Bad Tenant Incidents and Lessons Learned

My doppelganger, Sandy L from First Gen American has some seriously awful tenants from hell.  Her mother, Babci, used to have tenants but managing them got to be such a burden, Sandy and her family actually sold the home to get away from having to deal with tenants.  We can all learn a lot from her.

Sandy at Yes I’m Cheap just launched a new website called and I’m wishing her great success.  Fortunately for her and unfortunately for many of us, there is no shortage of material to fill up her site. Read more »


Court Hears How “Tenant From Hell” Trashed Home

A frustrated mother claims her house has been trashed by a “tenant from hell” who refused to pay almost £4,000 in rent.

Lynda Howroyd thought Steven Wakeham – a childhood friend of her son Nick – would have been ideal to rent her home in Pucklechurch while she was temporarily living in Spain last year.

But Bristol Country Court heard that over the next nine months Wakeham paid for less than two months’ stay and refused to give up possession of the house until Mrs Howroyd took him to court.

When Mrs Howroyd finally got her home on St Aldam’s Drive back, she claimed valuables including jewellery, DVDs, and computer equipment had been stolen and substantial damage caused. Read more »